Asking for the world’s smallest favor

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Although most of us have acquired enough manners over the course of our lives that we know enough not to ask a stranger to give us his/her seat on a bus or train, when it comes to networking, I find that many folks don’t know when they have overstepped their bounds. The approach I would...


Mar 01, 2021

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Listening & throwing up

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One of the many skills we always need to be polishing as financial professionals is our listening skills. The problem begins with the fact that as financial professionals we are more comfortable receiving our information in written form. Put us in a "selling" situation, especially over ...


Feb 28, 2021

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Call me Mr. Know-it-all

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One of the most endearing qualities of us financial folks is that we almost always have a firm opinion about everything. And, if we don’t have an opinion about something, we figure we can reason one out. (Hey, just take the facts and multiply by two!) It is sort of part and parcel of wh...


Feb 21, 2021

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Homogeneous groups and pitfalls

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Is there a possible pitfall in sticking with a homogeneous group of unemployed people? First of all, I would never suggest to anyone that they should solely and exclusively network within The FENG. What I have suggested and do strongly suggest is that you START with our networking group...


Feb 11, 2021

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Dropping in a little artillery

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The truth is that even friends sometimes don’t get back to you when you call. Ever wonder why? So, if friends have trouble returning calls, is it possible that strangers might be even more reluctant to return phone calls? I guess the real question is not why folks don’t return phone ...


Feb 09, 2021

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Geese and golden eggs

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I am sure that I don’t need to repeat the fable of the goose that laid golden eggs, so I will move right into the analogy. The goose is The FENG (also a living organism) and the golden eggs are the ability to network with other members. (If networking isn’t true gold, I don’t know what ...


Feb 02, 2021

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Making networking benefit YOU

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I am always trying to explain networking to users. Tonight I am going to try to explain networking to givers. The common misperception is that networking is a give and take. You give to others and they take. Nothing could be further from the truth. Networking as I suggest it be pra...


Jan 28, 2021

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Getting back at it

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Okay sports fans, the new year has begun. It is now January 14th and time is slipping away. At the moment this year promises to be a good one for employment. (Then again, the light at the end of the tunnel I am seeing could be a speeding locomotive.) Although you have to “do it all,” I wou...


Jan 14, 2018

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Making networking benefit YOU

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I am always trying to explain networking to users. Tonight I am going to try to explain networking to givers. The common misperception is that networking is a give and take. You give to others and they take. Nothing could be further from the truth. Networking as I suggest it be practiced i...


Jan 23, 2018

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Listening & throwing up

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One of the many skills we always need to be polishing as financial professionals is our listening skills. The problem begins with the fact that as financial professionals we are more comfortable receiving our information in written form. Put us in a “selling” situation, especia...


Feb 21, 2018

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Asking for the world’s smallest favor

Asking for the world’s smallest favor Cover Image

Although most of us have acquired enough manners over the course of our lives that we know enough not to ask a stranger to give us his/her seat on a bus or train, when it comes to networking, I find that many folks don’t know when they have overstepped their bounds. The approach I would su...


Feb 22, 2018

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

The 400 pound phone

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Just as an experiment, I unplugged my phone from my desk today and took it upstairs and put it on our bathroom scale. (My office is in my house.) I am sure the scale is wrong because I couldn’t get the scale to even register the weight of the phone. But then, the scale is generally used to...


Mar 04, 2018

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Two peas in a pod

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One of the great mysteries in this world is why any two people would network. Yes, I know this sounds like heresy coming from someone who has built his entire life on networking, but it is actually a very good question, and one that members who have not been exposed to “the truth” often as...


Mar 25, 2018

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Watching your back

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It would be great if we could all see behind us while at the same time looking forward, but it just isn’t possible. And, sometimes just looking forward is hard enough. We have all heard about the “buddy system” that swimmers use. And, of course, having someone “watch your back” is a concep...


Mar 27, 2018

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

The original conversation killer

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My wife is a speech pathologist by education and early work experience. One of the things that drives her crazy is one word answers. Her approach in teaching speech has always been to ask questions that create a conversation. The only way to get the kids she was working with to improve the...


Apr 05, 2018

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Bashfulness is not my strong suit

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Hard to believe, but bashfulness is apparently a quite prevalent condition among our membership. Yes, these same individuals who in prior lives as bankers were cutting off lines of credit or foreclosing on hapless widows have a near terminal fear of picking up the phone and calling other m...


Apr 24, 2018

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Everyone wants to help

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I know that some of you who have been at job search for a period of time may find this hard to believe, but everyone wants to help, it is just that they don’t always know how. I see it all the time at chapter meetings. Each person does their 90-second elevator speech, but rarely do they ma...


Apr 22, 2018

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Keeping hope alive

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Whether you are currently working and hate your job or are currently in active search mode, the most important job you have every day is maintaining an optimistic view of the future. The stresses and strains of a job that is winding down may at times seem beyond bearable. Back in 1991 duri...


Apr 26, 2018

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

A fine line

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The difference between being viewed as possessing dogged persistence and being an outright pest is hard to define. Like beauty or obscenity, I guess we know it when we see it. I have had many jobs over the course of my career, some paid, some volunteer that have involved collection work. W...


May 20, 2018

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Networking-A lifetime activity

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I was fortunate to speak with two of our more experienced chapter chairs recently who each in their own way in our wide ranging conversations reminded me of the importance of networking as a lifetime activity. I suppose to a degree, networking doesn’t come naturally to us financial types. ...


May 14, 2018

By Matthew Bud, The FENG

Please, no sad stories

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As we all blast out of here for the long Labor Day weekend, let me give you a few suggestions to make your “time off’ most productive. I hope that all of you will be sharing some good times with family and old friends. (All my friends are old, but I digress.) If you are currently unemploye...


Aug 30, 2018

By Matthew Bud, The FENG