The intimidation factor

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One of the many things I hear members comment on from time to time when they are out and about networking within our group is: “I can’t believe how talented everyone is. How can I ever expect to get a job if some of these folks are out of work?”I am not sure why I am caught off guard by th...

Sep 12, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

No one ever calls

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I had an interesting comment from one of our members of long standing several years ago to the effect that no one was calling him. Of course, the ultimate revenge would be to give all of you his phone number and ask you to call our very own “lonesome George,” but that would be mean.While i...

Sep 01, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Law and order

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Over the years I have been asked many times how large The FENG could get before “law and order” breaks down. By law and order breaking down I am talking about a point in time when we can no longer count on our members to treat each other with respect.Respect comes in many forms. We all tak...

Aug 09, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

The art of friendship

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Perhaps because we fill in so many forms during the course of our careers, it seems that as financial types we are always looking for a fill in the blank approach to just about everything.Is there a formula for 90-second announcements, I am frequently asked? Well, there are some basic guid...

Jul 28, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Life is a journey

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I have often noted to my friends who aren’t into boating that the difference between a power boater and a sail boater is that power boaters usually use their boats to go somewhere, whereas sail boaters are already there once they step onto their boat.In our goal driven, management by objec...

Jul 26, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Curb your enthusiasm-NOT

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There is a memorable scene in Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid in which Paul Newman is challenged for control of the Hole in the Wall Gang. They agree that the best way to settle their disagreement is with a knife fight. Paul suggests that before they get started that they should decide ...

Jul 20, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Human Interaction

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Since we have so many new members each year, I thought I would write something tonight about the mission of The FENG and how we accomplish our objectives for one another.Sailors are a naturally friendly lot. (Yes, another sailing analogy!) As one of the other couples my wife and I met at a...

Jul 08, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Why bother saying thank you?

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For those of you who are sailing fans and/or history buffs and saw the movie Master & Commander: The Far Side of The World, there was a scene where Russell Crowe and Paul Bettany were having a heated argument about the merits of flogging. The comment made by the captain was that the go...

Jun 28, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Fewer close friends?

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There was mention in an article several years ago in The Wall Street Journal that Americans have fewer close friends. Intrigued at the time, I “Googled” and found a few press reports about the article.According to an article in American Sociological Review, in 1985, the average American ha...

Jun 23, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Just showing up

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There are several folks who claim credit for it, but one of the things I have been heard to say from time to time that I didn’t make up is that “90% of life is just showing up.” (Okay, perhaps it is only 89%. Whatever!)As we begin the months of the so called summer doldrums, I would ask al...

Jun 21, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Unsolicited advice

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It is a sad fact that most men don’t appreciate getting unsolicited advice. That said, there are even those among us who reject advice they have asked for out of hand and in a dismissive way.The giving and receiving of advice is always a delicate balance. Even though probably 75% of my mai...

Jun 20, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Being nice to everyone

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Whether you are active in your job search or just trying to get your job done for “the great corporation,” it pays to be nice to everyone.One of my best friends is a real charmer and I always enjoy going out to dinner with him because we always get great service. He just has a way of engag...

May 09, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Fixing a bad attitude

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w often have you heard it said “He has a bad attitude?”We spend a lot of time addressing the bad attitudes of others. For example, discussions about age discrimination fall into this category. The world has a “bad attitude” toward those of us who are well experienced. (Over qualified.)Whet...

Apr 28, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Chip firmly in place

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Over the years I have had more than a few “interesting” discussions with new member applicants. I guess I can talk about them with all of you because they weren’t sponsored or accepted.Although I am in a position where I have to say no now and then, I try to visualize my role as that of “t...

Apr 14, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Asking for help

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Asking for help is hard for many people. I don't know why that is, but I am sure it is just part of human nature.I guess we have been brought up to “do it ourselves.” It is sort of a mark of our independence when we become real adults. I have been told that this is the reason that guys use...

Apr 08, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Organizations have character

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One of the more amazing things I find myself discussing from time to time is that organizations seem to take on a life of their own. Even when I “drop in” many years later I find very little has changed.As I “drop in” to chapters of The FENG around the country, one of my goals is to find o...

Apr 04, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Brutally direct advice

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The FENG is a society based on helping others. (Not that they actually need our help, of course.)I realize that, at times, members are in a sensitive state and I try to act accordingly. But, I don’t really know if providing brutally direct advice is better than soft peddling what they abso...

Mar 11, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Call me Mr. Know-it-all

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One of the most endearing qualities of us financial folks is that we almost always have a firm opinion about everything. And, if we don’t have an opinion about something, we figure we can reason one out. (Hey, just take the facts and multiply by two!) It is sort of part and parcel of wh...

Feb 21, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Is it business or personal?

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In the closing scene of the first Godfather movie the individual who betrayed Don Corleone is being led away. Just before he gets into the car to his certain death, he turns to consigliere Tom Hagan and says that he hopes he understands that it was all about business and that it was nothin...

Feb 16, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Geese and golden eggs

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I am sure that I don’t need to repeat the fable of the goose that laid golden eggs, so I will move right into the analogy. The goose is The FENG (also a living organism) and the golden eggs are the ability to network with other members. (If networking isn’t true gold, I don’t know what ...

Feb 02, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG

Sharing with the family

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Job search can be a lonely business. There you are, in your home office from the moment you get up in the morning until just before you go to bed. Emails are going out. Letters are being sent. Appointments are being made. (And, the only time you leave the house is for this purpose.) The...

Jan 27, 2021

By Matt Bud, The FENG